Fourth Wave

Justice is served.

 I just read something so ridiculously shocking, I almost cried. I mean I know plastic surgery is all the rage nowadays, but this is just repulsive. I came across an entire website giving not only information about hymenoplasties, but also trying to persuade women to get them. According Pravda.ru, every woman has five reasons to recover her virginity. And how does she go about doing that? A Simple hymenoplasty is a procedure in which a plastic surgeon stitches together the remains of a woman’s hymen. Ew. An alloplant hymen restoration surgery is when a surgeon inserts a "tear-through biomaterial" which acts as a new hymen. Double ew. Why the hell would any woman want to experience pain again? Why would any woman want a part of their body ripped open again? It’s a mystery to me, but this website argues that although the breaking of a second hymen is even more painful than the first time, it’s enjoyable for the man. I mean seriously. Wtf. While talking about a woman who got this surgery, the website stated, "Marina’s second “wedding” night was a rather painful experience for her. On the contrary, her boyfriend enjoyed every minute if it." I literally yelled "OH MY GOD!!" when I read that. I hate how everywhere we look, we women are bombarded with things we can do to "please our men". But why? I don’t see any men’s magazines giving tips on how to make women happy. Open up a Cosmo magazine. Sex moves, makeup tips, hairstyles, etc, created specifically for the purpose of pleasing men. And now they created an entire surgery so that a man can feel powerful in taking a woman’s virginity. Which is fake, anyway. Another thing I don’t understand is why society is so obsessed with a woman’s virginity. Its a hymen. It breaks. Get over it. Why don’t men have any type of re-virginization ceremony or whatever? Oh, right, because we live in a patriarchal society. It’s really sick and wrong. Seriously. And women actually fall for these things because they care way too much about what a man thinks about them. I don’t care what you say, I would never have some doctor stitch together my vagina so a man can rip it open again. Sorry.

Dooney Da Priest, a rapper from Dallas, is trying to change society by telling young men to pull their pants up. In an effort to stop sagging, he even wrote a song about it. Now, I’m totally against "sagging" pants. I mean, seriously, I don’t want to see boy’s asses everywhere I go. And I think it’s so cool that a member of the community that’s mostly responsible for sagging [the hip-hop community] is coming out and telling his peers to stop sagging. Because if "the man" tells guys to stop sagging their pants, of course they wont listen. But if a rapper tells them, they probably will. And its a great idea, really, but there’s one problem. The main point Dooney Da Priest makes on why it’s bad to sag your pants is that he thinks it looks "gay" to do so. Lyrics such as "You walk the streets with your pants way down low/ I don’t know! Looks to me you on the down low." and "I think its gay but some of yall think it’s cool/ Walking around showing your behind to other dudes" clearly show the homophobia deeply embedded in rap culture. Young men shouldn’t sag their pants because its tasteless and just plain gross to show the world your underwear. They shouldn’t stop sagging because it makes them gay. And that’s so not cool that this guy said that. While it’s amazing to have a rapper attempt to get youth to stop sagging, using homophobia is totally the wrong way to do it. Close, but no cigar.
 
 

Ashley Madison dating agency is apparently the number one dating service of it’s kind. What kind is it? One where married adults seek extramarital affairs, with a slogan of "When Monogamy Becomes Monotony". There’s a risqué billboard on Sunset BLVD proclaiming that "Life is short. Have an affair." They say they don’t encourage married people to have affairs, instead they say that people are going to cheat on their spouses anyway, so why not make it easy? While this dating site laughs in the face of monogamy, it also laughs in the face of safety. They don’t pre-screen members, and they justify this by reminding users that "everyone you initially meet on this system will be a stranger to you." But after they rape/assault/hurt/whoknowswhat you, they’re an acquaintance? Fun stuff. Maybe I’m old fashioned, but cheating is wrong, and creating an entire dating service for the sole purpose of encouraging cheating is wrong. If you’re tired of your spouse, get a divorce, but no one deserves to be cheated on.
 
 

I’m writing this because someone close to me is going through a divorce, and ignorant me just learned about a little thing called alimony. For those who don’t know, alimony is money granted to an ex-spouse after a divorce. Usually the person who makes more money gives to the one who makes less. And in most cases, it’s the man who supports the woman, therefore the woman takes the money in the end. I find this whole concept sickening in many ways. Marriage should not by any means be a way to find financial stability and support. Ever. Women should never marry a man for their money. So, after a couple gets divorced, the woman should not have to be given any money, because she should have been able to support herself anyway. That’s why I find the idea of alimony disturbing and demeaning. It’s basically saying that one spouse takes care of the other, and when they get divorced, the lesser spouse needs to continue receiving money from their ex because they have no one to take care of them. That’s so wrong. Unfortunately, we live in a society where there’s usually only one breadwinner in a family, and the other is financially unstable and depends on their spouse. Sad. Alimony can in some cases be given to the man from the woman. But I feel the same exact way about that. Be financially stable before you enter a relationship, whether you’re a man or woman.
 
Oh, and did I mention, you don’t have to take alimony. But most people do. I mean, it’s free money, right?
 
 

I know this is old news, but I have something to say about it, too.

A prostitute in Pennsylvania was raped at gunpoint by 4 men and Judge Teresa Carr Deni decided that because of the woman’s occupation, it was okay to drop the rape charges. Instead, she charged the man [Dominique Gindraw] for "theft of services". Apparently, the woman’s case "minimizes true rape cases and demeans women who are really raped." Thats interesting, because for some strange reason, I thought that all forced sex was rape, therefore illegal. Silly me. I was unaware of the fact that prostitutes are lesser human beings, that the rules of the legal system dont apply to them. That their rapists can go free and rape another woman four days later. Obviously, Judge Deni thinks that. What I dont understand is, if a woman forced at gunpoint to have sex with 4 men isnt condidered to be raped in the sad state of Pennsylvania, then what the fuck is rape over there? Prostitute or no prostitute, rape is rape. I dont care if you’re standing on the streetcorner, half naked. If a woman [or man, or anyone] says "no, I do not want to have sex with you", or doesn’t say "yes, I would like to have sex with you", then that’s fucking rape. There’s just no question about it. And I do not know what the hell was going on in Judge Deni’s mind that made her decide the way she did, but I hope she never gets a rape case ever again in her life.

Oh, and does anyone know this poor girl’s name?